Beta Males - The Reason Why There's Less Competition Than Ever In The Dating Pool

Beta Males – The Reason Why There’s Less Competition Than Ever In The Dating Pool

Why There Are A Increasing Number Of Beta Males

I'm sure you've noticed as the years progress that beta males and “soy boys” are increasing in exponential proportions.

Men in general are becoming more and more feminine.

A lot of people think it is associated with the decline in natural testosterone levels as time goes on.

Some people think it's just the result of increasing amounts of social media use.

While many people see this is a negative thing, I want to talk about why this is a good thing, and why people shouldn't be so disappointed about how we're progressing as a species.

The Advantage For The Small Proportion Of Alpha Males

The amount of competition is lower than ever for true alpha males.

If you care about self-improvement at all, you'd be stoked that other guys are being complete pussies right now, and you have a significant competitive advantage.

In the dating pool, women still want the stereotypical alpha male.

No, not someone who is mean on purpose or treats women like crap (common misconception).

An alpha male is a man who is completely outcome independent, emotionally secure, and confident.

The same traits are still universally attractive to women that are becoming more and more difficult to find in current day.

And the reason for that I believe is partially hormonal, but mainly social media driven.

The Effect Social Media Has On Social Awareness

As the years have gone on, it's become more and more widely accepted to stay in your house and stare at your computer and phone all day.

Humans are creatures of comfort, I'm sure you've heard that before.

The more you put them in a comfortable situation, the harder it's going to be for them to put themselves in extremely uncomfortable situations.

One of those situations is talking to girls.

An 18 year old girl literally thinks it is weird and socially awkward to receive a phone call from a guy now.

If you're not texting, dm'ing, whatsapp’ing, or snapping, then you're “weird”.

Nobody talks on the phone now, which I think is hilarious, because it's literally why the thing was invented in the first place.

But beyond that, everyone is meeting people on Tinder, Bumble, or on other, dating apps, or they are dm'ing them on Instagram.

That's how people are getting girlfriends now and meeting people.

And that's fine, I strongly advise taking advantage of that.

Use your looks to your advantage.

If you have good pictures, you're going to excel online, that's just how it works.

But how you can get a cut above is also taking advantage of the fact that men are all living their lives out online, exclusively trying to DM girls and message them on Tinder.

Is there anybody going up to that hot chick at the grocery store anymore, asking her how her day was and asking her out?


No one's really doing that because guys are at home on Tinder or on Instagram.

And that's just what people do now for staying in their social bubble.

Granted, they're going to go on dates, and they're going to get girls via that.

But, the literal cold approaching a stranger that you don't know and striking up a conversation is something that most beta males find completely terrifying.

This is something you can take advantage of.

Women Are Attracted To Alpha Males

A hundred years ago, guys met girls solely through approaching and talking to them.

Nowadays, the only way beta males meet girls is through their phones.

This is where you will stand out because you can be that guy who not only made a girls day by catching her off guard, but you will likely be one of the only guys talking to her who is not being a completely socially unaware lemming.

By showing how much more ballsy you are than every other guy who is blowing up her phone, you automatically set yourself apart from the pack in a massive way.

These scenarios are becoming so much rarer nowadays that girls will literally be fixated on that unique interaction they had where a guy just flat out confidently walked up to her, struck up an interesting conversation, and asked her out.

You'd be shocked how many women will go home and tell all their girlfriends about the amazing encounter they had with you earlier.

This amazing unique encounter literally involved a time investment of 2-3 minutes on your part, but completely made this girls day and instantly moved you to the front of her lineup of male candidates.

You can't beat a face to face interaction.

Just like online dating, your success ratio of cold approaches will still be low'ish (depending on how good looking you are and socially aware), but remember, this is still a numbers game.

However, once you do cold approach the girls who are sexually available (it's a matter of time as it is a numbers game), your impact on her in 2-3 minutes will completely outweigh the hours of leg work Joe Shmoe has been putting in over Tinder/text messaging for the past week.

Men Are Evolving In Reverse

For the evolution of the male species, the beta’ization of the male population is not going to bold well for us.

However, at an individual level, as somebody who's looking to improve your quality of life as much as physically possible, you and I can take advantage of this severely.

Be that alpha guy who's unlike the rest of the beta males who are at home, sitting on their phone all day.

Strike up conversations with women when you want to, there is absolutely zero reason to be inhibited by the comfort of social media, as it will just have an overall net negative on your quality of life at the end of the day.

This isn't just about approaching women either, social intuition and extremely low levels of social anxiety are things you will indirectly gain out of these interactions at an incredibly quick rate if you are consistent, and these interactions will also translate directly into your performance in job interviews, business presentations, public speaking, and any other medium where social skills are of the utmost importance.

Even just making friends in general, having top tier social skills is HUGE.

As time goes on, men are going to continue getting worse and become increasingly repressed.

The population of women continues to rise while the population of men continues to rise in parallel.

Despite this, the proportion of men who are true alpha males that women want to be with continues to get worse.

10% Of Men Get 90% Of The Women

As the population rises, the proportion of beta males that women find unattractive will continue to trend in a pattern conducive to the success of alpha males.

This is why only 10% of men get 90% of the women.

There's never been a better time to actually be what a stereotypical man would be on paper, because there really are none.

Hopefully this serves as a wake up call if you're not operating like this already.

Next time you're in public and you see a an attractive woman you're interested in;

Instead of going home and just going through your phone for the rest of the day, go up to that chick in person.

Go make her day and try to get her number.

Should things go well, you'd create a new dating option for yourself, and she will meet a high value man who can also improve her quality of life in return.

The risk:reward ratio on these situations is massive as the time investment for a cold approach is so low, and the impact they have nowadays is so high, and will continue to get higher.

Things may be getting worse for the male population in general, but for you, things will get better if you take advantage of it.

Set yourself apart from the herd.

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11 thoughts on “Beta Males – The Reason Why There’s Less Competition Than Ever In The Dating Pool”

    1. True. And the best part is, most men are lazy fat slobs, so if you lift regularly, you’re automatically in the top 10% of most attractive men, even if your body ain’t perfect. 15% bodyfat puts you in the leanest 2% of all men in the USA.

  1. Eduard Raducanu

    Hey Derek! Big and old fan of GLL here and by extension of yourself! Theoretically what you says makes perfect sense but practically… I don t know man, in my experience nowadays it s worse than ever, because nobody approaches anymore, women look at you like some kind of weirdo for going and speaking to them in broad daylight without knowing them… And i think i m significantly above average in a aspects… Maybe something is wrong? But I see that cold approach works sadly less because of the new society… At least that s what I can see in Uk… Maybe you have some ideas 🙂

    1. Look good while approaching = confident
      Look average or below average while approaching = creepy

      Max out your looks, and then it’s just a numbers game that is ever increasingly in your favour. Yes, some girls may think it’s weird in this era, but that shouldn’t deter you whatsoever. The less common it gets, the more memorable you are to each girl, and if you are above their looks threshold and have very basic social intuition, cold approach will be your best friend.

      Time efficiency wise, online dating will still trump everything, but the point is that you aren’t supposed to be going out and dedicating giant blocks of time to “sarging” anyways once you are confident in your ability to get laid.

      Integrate cold approaches into your everyday life. See a girl at the gas station, the grocery store, the gym, whatever. Talk to her.

      E.G. hitting on 100 girls online vs hitting on 100 girls online + girls you happen to be walking by anyways in real life. The latter will yield much better results with minimal additional time investment, and also afford you a much better opportunity to build social circles with some of the girls too.

  2. What a bunch of crap. Girls get hit on daily on the streets. Just look at london. Daygamers are on every street there. So they get spoiled even more.

  3. Eduard Raducanu

    Thanks for the answers. I put here my facebook page. I don t know man, I think I am significantly above average?! I have to say I m also 6 feet 1 and a personal trainer so besides what you can see in the pics, I m also tall, ripped and have pretty good social skills from approaching and talking to clients in the gym all day long…


    Do you think I m actually more in the average department and I should do something? I think and life i think showed me I m significantly above average but I don t know, maybe I m insane man haha.

    Regardless, I appreciate the time for responses, I know you re super busy. Keep up the good work! 🙂

    1. Your results from online dating will tell you if you are significantly above average or not. Online dating will give you the best indication of where you stand looks wise if you really want to know exactly where you’re at.

      1. Eduard Raducanu

        Hmm online dating i literally have no results lol. I mean only fat women match with me. But in real life i have been to modelling agencies and everybody tells me i m highly attractive. So seems that it s a big dichotomy at play :))

        Thanks again for answering back 😉

        1. Modeling work means fuck all. Lots of niche models that don’t really have universal appeal. Derek said it best: get as big as you can and get as lean as you can

    2. Im gonna do you a giant favor and tell you the truth: your face isn’t lean, so you’re not gonna wow any girl’s pants off. Get leaner for a leaner face if you haven’t already after all these years. You sure you’re ripped?

    3. Just checked out your profile. Bro you look like an absolute stud, dont believe anyone who says otherwise.

      Not sure why you are not able to click on tinder though. Donno much about it myself.

      But anyways man, if you have good social skills i think cold approaching is the way to go for you. Tinder pussy is usually garbage tier anyways

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